Certainty is perhaps one of the most valuable factors in any relationship, and it is safe to say that it is the main reason why most partners remain loyal to each other and try to make everything work. Well, we all want to end up married instead of going through a crazy rollercoaster of uncertainty.
An engagement ring sure breeds certainty to a wedding, but what happens before the engagement ring. Should there be a pre-engagement ring, by preference, a promise ring?
Well, promise rings signify a promise to take the relationship seriously, and it also symbolizes hope for the future development of the relationship. It does not necessarily promise marriage, but it gives some kind of certainty in the process.
But really, the choice to take a relationship seriously is often a personal choice, and any mature adult may be able to do that based on their values and individual decisions.
But, should adults give promise rings as a way to communicate how serious they are about their partner? Read on to find out.
Are promise rings still a thing?
Promise things have been in existence since the olden times. During the 2nd Century BC, Roman brides wore promise rings, which were a symbol of the marriage promise.
They did this mainly because the law at the time; mandated that couples needed to wait for some time before announcing their goal to marry (engagement) and even the wedding itself.
It simply showed that the lady was ‘taken’ and is in a serious committed relationship, which is about to step up to marriage.
In the 15th to 17th century, the promise rings featured a romantic poem engraved in them. The romantic poem was used to express affection and devotion.
In as much as they seem popular in ancient times, promise rings are still a thing up to date.
They exist in abundance and indicate a lasting trend that is well received among many people currently.
Jewelry and other rings currently represent a promise of commitment between two people.
Do adults give promise rings?
Yes. There is really no age limit for giving promise rings. Well, there is the fact that the mid-century American tradition of high school boys giving beautiful class rings or pins to their girlfriends is a sign of seriousness in their relationships, which has made it a popular trend among the younger generation.
But, this shouldn’t bar any adult from giving a promise ring to their significant other.
Promise rings are equally for adult men as they are for adult women.
Some couples choose to wear matching promise rings to express their commitment to each other. Other partners prefer to choose a promise ring based on the personality of their partner.
A promise ring is simply a step up from dating, and it is a decent indicator that your heart entirely belongs to your significant other.
It is indeed a subtle way to show that as an adult, you are devoting your time and genuineness to nurturing your romantic relationship into a more promising future.
When should you give promise rings?
More like, how long should you wait till you can give your significant other a promise ring? Well, if you have been dating your significant other for about a year or so, and you are sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with her, then maybe it is time to give them a promise ring.
The promise ring would be a great substitute for future engagement, and it brings about an aura of certainty in your relationship. Preferably, it shows that you are committed to your partner, and you are choosing to shape your future together.
Even so, there isn’t really a specific timeline to follow when you want to give a promise ring to your partner.
If you feel as though you are comfortable with each other entirely and are ready for the next steps in your relationship, then it is probably is time to give them a promise ring.
Do you kneel for a promise ring?
Unfortunately, it may not be the best idea. You do not want to have your partner mistaking a promise ring for an engagement ring because it may end up attracting negative attention or any wrong ideas.
For this reason, you are better off discussing with your significant other before giving her the promise ring.
After constructive discussion and agreement, you can give it to her on a special occasion such as her birthday, your dating anniversary, or a beautiful holiday that you would both go for.
Promise rings have existed since time immemorial and they continue to become popular in the jewelry world as time goes by.
They are a beautiful symbol of hope, and they are a solid pledge of love. Even better, promise rings may be a great way to strengthen the bond that you have with your significant other.
So, should adults give promise rings? Most definitely!
Stephanie is a jewelry lover when she was a teenager. Her major was fashion design when she was in college. She is a jewelry designer at SOQ Jewelry and other design companies. Now she is also a writer for our website. She writes a lot of designs&brands posts with very actionable tips.