Wondering if there is a smart way for you to ask for a promise ring? Women often take relationships more seriously than men, and when things are going well, and you believe that you are meant for each other, the idea of getting a promise ring is quite appealing.
For men, on the other hand, somethings are hardly ever on their minds, which means that although they truly love you, there are things that will not cross their minds that easy or fast.
In this article, we take a look at some of the smart ways of asking for a promise ring and how to do it right.
How to ask for a promise ring
First, it’s important to note that the idea of promise rings isn’t the first thing that comes to mind, especially to adults. However, this is not to say that all adults are against promise rings. What you need to know before you bring up the subject of promise rings is to understand where you both are in the relationship.
Ideally, if you haven’t discussed things like marriage and sharing your future together, then it wouldn’t be wise to bring up the promise ring at the time.
This is because the idea behind the promise ring is to promise your (future) lives to each other, which means that if you haven’t had such deep discussions, it might be a bad idea to bring up or ask for the promise ring.
If, on the other hand, you’ve had this discussion, you’d want to bring up the idea of a promise ring, first in a fun and relaxed setting to gauge his reaction.
If he seems receptive, smiles, and even looks interesting, asking more questions about the ring, you could start dropping hints. But just don’t rush it.
If the promise ring is something he wants to give you, meaning he wishes to make that promise to you, he will give you the ring.
Just keep an open mind and remember that if you love him and you wish to build a future with him, the promise ring shouldn’t really matter.
1.Taking the direct approach and show him what you want
While this is also tied to how much you’ve known each other and whether you last and have a future together or not, you can ask for a promise ring by using subtleties.
For example, you could dress up just as he likes, then wait until he’s hot and bothered, showing him different promise rings, especially the one you like. You could also send him the link to the ring. Don’t be pushy though.
Remember that if your partner isn’t into promise rings, then there is no point in your trying to push them into the promise rings idea.
If your partner isn’t ready, the promise ring won’t mean much to them, and the promise will be easy for them to be break. You can never make a guy like you just as much as you like them.
2.Spending time with your married friends
If you want to ask for a promise ring, the smartest move around it would involve taking him on more of the hangouts with your married friends, especially married couples with kids.
Spending time together is important for couples, and if you spend more time around married couples (with kids), it becomes easier for him to envision being with you for the long haul. It’s hard to resist the charm of kids, so make sure that you are hanging out with families that are happy together.
3.Make yourself the one that he needs.
Relationships are complicated, and no matter how long you’ve dated, your partner might not seem interested in proposing to you soon if he isn’t sure.
Often, it doesn’t mean that he does not love you; it just means that you need to be that best friend that he knows he cannot live without.
So, this would mean putting more work into the relationship, all in a bid to keep your relationship last for a long time.
Once he sees what he was looking for all along, he will make things official or, at the very least, give you a promise ring as he works on getting things squared away.
4.Stop being always available.
While you love him with all you have and you’re always there for him, this level of familiarity, convenience, and availability means that he will forget what he really has, and he will be too comfortable in your relationship.
So, have your own separate life, be unavailable sometimes, and build a life that makes him want to be a part of your life forever.
Have an active social life, make plans with your friends, go on trips with the girls, etc.
These things will make you more desirable, and it will be easier for him to give you that promise ring.
5.Focus on making your happy
There is a lot you could do to make a man (or your partner) happy, and it may feel like you are doing it all right, but if you are not making yourself happy, if you are not content with your life and happiness, and if there is a void of some sort in your life, then you will have a hard time in that relationship
Inner happiness is an attractive element that makes your partner fall in love with you all over again, each day, and if you want to ask for a promise ring or even an engagement ring, your happiness might be all you need to push those buttons and get the green light.
So, focus on making yourself happy. It will take time, but it will be worth it. The best part about being your happiest, most authentic self is that despite all the challenges you’ll face in that relationship, and even if things don’t work out for you both, you will know who you are and what makes you the best version of yourself, which is all that really matters.
6.Don’t ask or push for more if he cannot afford more.
If you are sure that you are in a solid relationship and you are both certain that you will have a future together, but he still isn’t proposing, you may have to give it a break and ask yourself if there are things that could be holding him back.
Talk about it, and don’t judge them. Once you listen to their side of the story and you’re aware of why they seem to be holding back, you may propose that you either wait until things are better, or you could ask him to get a cheaper promise ring instead. Financial stability is important, but you shouldn’t have the relationship or future you want just because you cannot afford that ring.
So, think of the big picture and find easier ways of asking for that promise ring, especially if it’s that important to you.
Finally, a promise ring for adults only makes sense if you are getting it as a pre-engagement ring.
Otherwise, or unless you are promising other things other than your futures together, it wouldn’t be ideal to ask for the promise ring when you could ask for an engagement ring instead.
Not everyone is into promise rings, but if the promise ring matters to you, then find smart ways of asking for the ring.
Keep an open mind, though, because promises are broken all the time, and you won’t want your heart broken because you expected the moon and the stars.
Stephanie is a jewelry lover when she was a teenager. Her major was fashion design when she was in college. She is a jewelry designer at SOQ Jewelry and other design companies. Now she is also a writer for our website. She writes a lot of designs&brands posts with very actionable tips.